Keeping some belongings of someone who has died can feel like the next best thing to still having them with you. But does this help or hinder the grieving process?
All objects become imprinted with the energy of what happens around them. If someone gives you a personal item, or you buy something second-hand, it will carry the energy traces of the person who owned it before. If it was used a lot, used for a long time, or had very strong emotional connections for that person, the imprints will be correspondingly stronger.
This is the whole basis of psychometry, that a trained person can hold, say, a ring belonging to another person, and can translate the vibrational frequency of that ring and describe the person who owned it without having met them. It is also why people treasure the personal belongings of those who were close to them and have died. They may not put it in these words, but they want to own something that has the energy imprint of that person.
Keeping personal items after a bereavement
For a while, it can be very comforting to a grieving heart to have some things like this. However, your fond memories do not depend on this and the energy imprinting will fade over time. If you keep an item for many years as a way of trying to hold on to someone who has gone and have no use for it other than this, then stagnant energies will collect around it in the same way as they do around other objects that are not used. In other words, it will become a kind of clutter. If there is unresolved grief, then layers of sadness will accumulate around it too.
When you think about it, it’s quite curious that when someone dies, their everyday personal belongings can somehow become so special. When they were alive, their things were just things, but after they die, they can take on a unique significance.
Of course, it’s not really to do with the objects themselves. It’s to do with the associations you have with them. Resolve the grief and you will see each item for what it is – something that just happened to belong to someone you loved. It then becomes possible to easily let it go.
And how to resolve the grief? I looked for many years for a method I could recommend to people to help with this, and am happy to say I have found one. You can find more information here:
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