When someone dies, do you really need to keep things to remember them by?

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All objects become imprinted with the energy of what happens around them. If someone gives you a personal item, or you buy something second-hand, it will carry the energy traces of the person who owned it before. If it was used a lot, used for a long time, or had very strong emotional connections for that person, the imprints will be correspondingly stronger.

This is the whole basis of psychometry, that a trained person can hold, say, a ring belonging to another person, and can translate the vibrational frequency of that ring and describe the person who owned it without having met them. It is also why people treasure the personal belongings of those who were close to them and have died. They may not put it in these words, but they want to own something that has the energy imprint of that person.

Keeping personal items after a bereavement

For a while, it can be very comforting to a grieving heart to have some things like this. However, your fond memories do not depend on this, the energy imprinting will fade over time. If you keep an item for many years as a way of trying to hold on to someone who has gone and have no use for it other than this, then stagnant energies will collect around it in the same way as they do around other objects that are not used. In other words, it will become a kind of clutter. If there is unresolved grief, then layers of sadness will accumulate around it too.

When you think about it, it’s quite curious that when someone dies, their everyday personal belongings can somehow become so special. When they were alive, their things were just things, but after they die, they can take on a unique significance.

Of course, it’s not really to do with the objects themselves. It’s to do with the associations you have with them. Resolve the grief and you will see each item for what it is – something that just happened to belong to someone you loved. It then becomes possible to easily let it go.

And how to resolve the grief? I looked for many years for a method I could recommend to people to help with this, and am happy to say I have found one. You can find more information here:

The Grief Recovery Method
After a bereavement

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3 Responses to When someone dies, do you really need to keep things to remember them by?

  1. Wiltrud says:

    Hi Karen,

    After my mother died 26 years ago my father kept her jewelry. When he finally downsized and sold his house about twelve years ago the jewelry was split between my two sisters and me. I did not know what do with these pieces and was indecisive. They did not take up a lot of space but I did not use them and I did not actually want them. Until I finally sold them about four years ago including a ring my mother got as a gift when she was a young woman. I had always liked this ring and my mother gave it to me when I was 18 (a year before she died). I wore it at my wedding, which was important to me. But then it was just time to let it all go.

    The money I got from selling the jewelry was almost exactly the amount I paid for the tickets for a trip I took with my children the same year to visit a friend in the very north of Sweden. I would have taken the trip anyway but it was a nice coincidence. I have so many fond memories of this trip and even more so because I felt unburdened and relieved. Thinking about my mother, this trip, how it all worked out makes me happy and smiling. Having the jewelry in the basement never did.

  2. Katie says:

    Hi Karen

    Thank you for this article.

    I have a question- after a brake up of a 3 years relationship I happened to have some items that we bought together with my partner. Most of them , especially his paintings, books, his favorite carpets I put into storage and gave him a key to accès it and take it. He took only items he really liked and left others. When I came to close the contract with the storage the things we still there and I didn’t want to put them on the street. I took them back home. He called me later and accused me of steeling. I offered him to send a car and pick everything up. He never did and keep repeating that I stole from him.

    I wonder what I can do with them?becose there is an energetically connection between us be osé of them . I want to cut it, clear it. would be the best way to Give them to charity ? To sage them? Some of them like books or carpets been meant for our house and I spend money on them as well. What do you sujest?

    Really appreciate your reponce,
    Katie

    • Hi Katie

      What’s needed here is a clear agreement with your partner about what he wants to have done with his things, and since he is accusing you of stealing them, I suggest that you do this by email or SMS so that you will have a record of his reply. If he refuses to discuss this then you will need to seek legal advice about the best course of action to take.

      In the meantime you can space clear the items using the technique described in this article:
      How to clear energies in objects

      Smudging with sage is not an effective space clearing technique, as this article explains:
      Why smudging is not a space clearing technique

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