Do you often plan to go bed at a certain time but end up staying up way too late binge-watching TV, surfing the internet, or checking social media or texts?
Does this bleary-eyed photo look like you most nights a week? If so, you probably have Sleep Procrastination Syndrome which, thanks to modern technology, now afflicts millions of people around the world. You know you’ll be tired the next day, but somehow you don’t care. Until your alarm goes off the next morning, that is, and then you wish you’d gone to bed earlier.
‘I’m a night owl,’ you may say in your defence. Scientists have discovered there really are some people with a genetic sleep disorder known as Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome, whose circadian rhythms make them want to stay up later at night. But this affects at most only 15 percent of humanity. For everyone else, habitually staying up late is called Sleep Procrastination Syndrome and it’s especially common in people with an addiction to screens. It’s a potent form of self-sabotage that has far-reaching effects.
Why sleep procrastination is bad for you
A study titled The metabolic consequences of sleep deprivation conducted by Kristen Knutson of the University of Chicago found that people who habitually stay up later than planned have higher rates of diabetes, mental health disorders and neurological conditions.
In my own work with clients, I have found there is virtually nothing I can do to help anyone to bring about lasting changes in their life unless they are first able to put the foundations of a healthy sleep cycle in place. Staying up late and waking up tired every day disrupts everything. If you habitually hit the snooze button on your alarm each day, it may seem normal, but it’s not. It means you’re running on empty. And even if you have the luxury of not needing to get up for anything in particular each morning, it will still affect you.
If you’re in good health, your body can cope with the occasional late night. That’s not what we’re talking about here. It’s when you stay up late night after night, going to bed exhausted and waking up tired for no good reason, that it starts to have consequences. Running on empty fatigues your adrenals and uses up a precious commodity that is known in Chinese medicine as jing.
Why jing is so important
Jing is the quintessence of creative energy. It is what determines the level of our vitality, stamina and libido. Unlike the chi energy that comes from the food we eat and which can be replenished each day, jing is inherited from our parents and cannot be replaced when it runs out. Our reservoir of jing becomes depleted and exhausted as we age. It’s an inescapable fact of life.
It’s important to know that some activities burn more jing than others. In men, it is lost each time they ejaculate semen, which is why Taoists and Tantric practitioners have developed sexual practices that avoid this. In women, jing is lost (to a lesser extent than ejaculation) through menstruation.
Some lifestyle choices can also contribute to this. Extreme physical sports, drinking alcohol, overworking and overeating will burn jing at a quicker rate. And when you stay up late doing mindless stuff, especially when you are so tired you can hardly keep your eyes open, you have to draw on reserves of energy to do that. It comes from your store of jing.
In other words, each time you engage in sleep procrastination you are prematurely aging yourself. If you doubt me, look at yourself in the mirror at the end of one of those sessions, just before you finally drag yourself to bed. The person looking back at you will look far older and wearier than your years.
What causes Sleep Procrastination Syndrome?
The cause of Sleep Procrastination Syndrome is usually it’s a mixture of poor time management, internet addiction and FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).
There’s also a type known as Revenge Bedtime Procrastination that’s based in reactance against authority of some kind. You can spend your entire life unconsciously taking revenge in this way for having been sent to bed early as a child or some other perceived injustice. This can continue regardless of whether you still live with your parents or if your parents are even still alive. It’s a futile rebellion that only hurts you.
How to overcome sleep procrastination
Changing sleep procrastination behaviour is not as easy as you might think. Exhausting yourself each night provides a handy excuse for any failures in life. ‘It wasn’t my fault,’ you can tell yourself. ‘I was just tired.’ But you’re kidding yourself because you know full well it was your own decision to stay up too late. There’s also the problem that you may have been sleep deprived for so long that you no longer know what normal feels like.
So the first step to overcoming this is that you must want to do it. It won’t work to force yourself or ask someone else to police you. You have to experience how much better you feel when you get a good night’s sleep and want to have more of that in your life.
How to retrain yourself in three simple steps
- Set an alarm each evening, 30-60 minutes before a reasonable time for you to be in bed, to remind yourself that it’s time to wind down.
- Create a bedtime routine that you complete within that time period, such as having a quick tidy-up, doing some yoga stretches, taking a warm bath, changing into your nightwear, brushing your teeth and so on.
- Turn off all screens one hour before bed to reduce your exposure to blue light. If you can’t bring yourself to do this, at least install anti-blue light filters on your screens or wear blue-light blocking glasses after dusk. Also have a firm “no screens in the bedroom” rule in your home.
You may be happy to know there’s one exception to the no-screens rule. Ereader screens that use e-ink technology, such as the Kindle Paperwhite, emit such a tiny amount of blue light that the effect is negligible. So it’s fine to round off your day by reading an ebook on an e-ink e-reader. But do set yourself a time limit so that reading “just one more chapter” doesn’t become another way of staying up later than you intend.
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You talk about the blue light given off by screens. We use a projector and projector screen, so we are essentially looking at what the projector screen reflects. So, does a projector screen reflect the blue light too? (meaning that watching stuff via a projector needs the same care as watching a TV/computer etc screen).
Projectors do emit blue light, but watching TV on a projector screen is a lot gentler on your eyes than watching a TV screen. An even better solution is an anti-blue light TV screen, such as those made by Fiara, which blocks the entire range of harmful blue light. The company is based in Australia and their products can be purchased via Amazon in many parts of the world.
On the topic of sleep, jing and feng shui – can you say anything about how to deal with menopausal sleep disruption and how feng/space clearing shui could perhaps help?
Hi Lunah – Menopause is the result of a woman’s yin wearing out, which is jing related. This means she is less able to hold yang forces in her body and they can emerge as a flush. What I found so very interesting during the 20 years I lived in Bali is that Balinese women don’t have this condition at all. It’s completely unknown there. I’ve heard theories that this is because they have soya products in their diet, and it’s true they do eat some tempeh, but they are much fonder of meat and fish. From my observations, it’s to do with how well they hold their lower energy centres. By comparison, most Western women are so unconscious of and disconnected from their lower energy centres that they won’t even understand what I’m talking about here.
To try to explain this would take an entire book, so it’s not something I can go into here. The best I can suggest is that you read my articles about changing your bedroom environment, which won’t address the cause of menopause symptoms but may help you to handle them better:
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Reading this article about sleep procrastination, I felt like you were speaking directly to me. As a longtime sufferer, I have often pondered on the cause. A handy excuse for failure sounds right, along with a means to hold myself back from starting in the first place (or even knowing where to begin). Thanks for the push to set my bedtime alarm for tonight! It’s about time I work towards eliminating this destructive habit that I have had since high school and I have been beating myself up about for years. But you’re right, it is not easy!
This was very painful to read! I mean, the article is good and text is well written. But the truth hurts! I’m exactly like you describe in this article.
I haven’t heard before about FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). It hurt my heart when I realised…why it is so “important” for me to read each and every latest news and even mindless gossip and celebrity news late at night…because the result is that the next day I’m so tired that I’m missing out being fully present in my own life!! Why I cannot prioritize myself and my well-being, that is the question…
It is also heart-breaking that I’m especially “addicted” to youtube beauty/make-up videos, I admire those beautiful women and would like to look like they do….but when I binge watch them all night long, the next morning I wake up with red eyes, tired skin…definitely not beautiful (what an irony) and you are absolutely right: looking far older and wearier than my years.
It is difficult with this kind of bad habits or downright addictive behaviours. I can see what the problem is and want to change it, but it is not so easy! But thank you for this deep-thinking provoking article!
I bought an air-purifier a year ago (with few filters including the certified HEPA one). I was greatly surprised to find out that since then I needed approx. 1 hour less of sleep per night than normal, to wake up and feel rested. This was (and still is) amazing. Of course it’s not a substitute for enough amount of sleep per night, but it offers a substantial support with us doing practically nothing (except for investing in the purifier and regularly changing the filters).