How to move continents without losing the plot

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I saw a Master Chef TV program recently where a contestant competed against a famous professional chef to cook a dish of their choice. The chef had many years of experience and created a culinary masterpiece. When asked if he had found it challenging to do so in the time allowed, he said the cooking itself had been easy, but what had been difficult was doing it outside the environment of his own kitchen, where everything has its place and he can reach for things without even looking.

He was missing what is known in the cheffing world as mise en place, meaning having all the necessary tools and ingredients to hand. It reminded me of a story my husband, Richard, often recounts about the intense three days of mise en place preparations he once made in order to single-handedly create a 33-course banquet for the 33 guests of a wealthy Italian family he once worked for as their private chef. Each guest was invited to choose one of the dishes that made up the menu, and they were to be served with hardly any waiting time between courses at all. You can’t deliver that level of excellence if you have to hunt around for where you put the salt!

I listened to this TV chef’s words with some sympathy, not because I’ve ever worked in a kitchen, but because, when Richard and I moved this year from the UK to Australia, what I really missed during those two in-between months, when we lived out of suitcases while buying a new home, was the mise en place of having all the things we use each day around us.

Moving home can be a destabilizing experience, and moving continents even more so, because a much greater learning curve is involved, figuring out how to do even the simplest of things. So, during this period, we’ve been looking for ways to ease the process, and I thought I’d write this article to share some of the methods that have worked for us.

Clutter clear long before you move

Letting go of anything you will not need in your new home makes the process much easier, so we did this months before the big move, to avoid getting stressed out nearer the time.

Take your own bedding

One of the best decisions we made was to bring our own feather duvet and pillows so that we wouldn’t have to sleep with cheap synthetic ones for weeks. They weigh very little and squeeze down to almost nothing at all if you pack them last thing and use some gentle persuasion (sit on the lid) when zipping up the case. Having these with us made a huge difference to the quality of our sleep wherever we stayed.

Pack your own kitchen knives

We brought with us a large knife and a small one, packed in our check-in luggage. They don’t weigh much or take up much space, and make a heck of a difference when cooking in a poorly equipped kitchen.

Stay in self-catering accommodation, not a hotel

When moving to a place you’ve never lived before, an important part of house-hunting is to get to know the different areas, to find a location that works for you. Staying in a hotel doesn’t allow you to experience what it’s really like to live there. It offers creature comforts but buffers you from having to shop for your own food and find your way around the neighbourhood. We found that renting self-catering accommodation gave us a much better feel, was much more affordable, and much more spacious too.

Fully unpack

Humans are territorial animals and we rest our consciousness in the place that we live and on the things that we own. Trying to live out of suitcases while travelling doesn’t allow you to own the space or feel fully landed. So the first day we arrived in each new place, we fully unpacked our suitcases and found places to store all our things. This is one of the easiest ways to make a temporary place feel more like home.

Space clear

A much deeper level of owning a space can be achieved by space clearing, to remove the energies of previous occupants and instil new, higher frequencies for yourself. For this, the most essential piece of equipment is a high quality Balinese space clearing bell, which is one of the first things we always pack when travelling. We rented three properties during our house-hunt and space cleared each one, making them more nurturing for ourselves and for those who stay there after us.

Invest in stationery

The paper trail created by selling and buying a home, closing and opening a business, and moving from one continent to another is copious and can’t be done entirely paper-free. We brought laptops, pens and paper with us, but they weren’t enough. Soon we were juggling piles of documents and receipts, and had no idea where anything was. So pretty quickly we found a stationary store and bought some essentials – a small printer, some paper, some files with dividers, a stapler and a hole punch. It was a small price to pay for sanity and order.

Buy a car

Buying a car in the first week rather than renting for a couple of months was a no-brainer for us. Richard had already done the online searching and had a shortlist before we left the UK.

And we seriously needed a car. Here in Perth, house hunting is a mammoth undertaking, covering a region that is 5386 square kilometres (2080 square miles) in size, stretching 123 km (76 miles) from north to south and 60 km (37 miles) from east to west. It’s the second longest city in the world, soon to become the longest if it continues to expand at the same rate. We drove 5000 km (over 3000 miles) in our first four weeks to thoroughly explore, decide where we wanted to live, and look at properties in those areas.

We bought a cheap run-around that had a few scratches, so we fondly nicknamed it Scruff. It did its job and, a few weeks later, when we found the car we really wanted, we sold Scruff for almost the same price we bought it for.

Maintain your sense of purpose

During the whole process, bear in mind the reason why you decided to make the move in the first place. For Richard and I, it came about because we realized we had achieved everything we had moved to the UK to do, and it was clear that new possibilities would be open to us in Australia. It was also very cheering to remember, with gratitude, that we were between homes rather than homeless, and to view the whole process as an adventure rather than a hassle.

Keep your sense of humour

This was probably the most valuable thing we brought with us. It weighed nothing, and helped us to surf through all the challenges along the way. Mostly the process unfurled beautifully at every step, but for the times when the going got tough, and “boo” just wasn’t enough, the punch-line of this clever little skit by Scottish comedian, Fred Macauley, reminded us to keep our sense of humour and move on…

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The endowment effect

Woman buying a new jacket

A very helpful concept to understand when sorting through your things is something psychologists refer to as the “endowment effect”.

It’s mine!

There you are, clutter clearing an area of your home, and you come across an object that has no real value and even though you no longer use it (or perhaps have never used it), you feel reluctant to let it go. Everything about it screams at you that it is clutter, but somehow you don’t feel able to throw it away.

Another time you can see this is when you buy new clothes. Suppose you buy a new jacket. Before you bought it, it was just another jacket hanging in a shop and meant nothing to you, but as soon as you own it, something changes. Now it’s YOUR jacket. It now means more to you than it did before. Even if you take it home and never wear it, it’s yours. Even if every time you see it, you realize you wasted your money because it’s not the right jacket, it’s still yours, and so you feel reluctant to part with it.

Or at least some people do. Psychologists have observed that most people feel more attachment to an item they own than to something they do not own, and some people feel this more than others.

In behavioural economics, this leads to something known as the “endowment effect” or “divestiture aversion”, where people place more value on an item they own than one they do not, even if they have only owned it for a few minutes. This is because humans are hard-wired to be loss-averse, and letting go of something that is owned can trigger feelings of loss.

Clutter clearing made easy

So here’s something you can do next time you come across such an item while clutter clearing your home. Ask yourself this simple question:

Before I discovered I had this item, how much effort would I have been willing to put in to obtaining one just like it?

This gives you a completely different perspective, and more often than not, you realise it’s not something you would put any time or effort into acquiring. It’s something that happens to have come into your life at some point and is now just taking up space. This change in standpoint makes it much easier to let it go.

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What is chi?

Child on beach

Feng shui books frequently talk about balancing, harmonizing and enhancing chi. But what exactly is chi? Can you see it, hear it, touch it, taste it, smell it? Is there good chi, bad chi, neutral chi? Does it come in different strengths and flavours?

While western science still disputes the existence of anything that can’t be physically measured, Chinese medical practitioners, for thousands of years, have had a healthcare system that aims to treat medical disorders before they even show in the physical body (hence the traditional Chinese practice of paying your physician only when you are well). Their system works at the level of chi.

Understanding chi

The starting point for understanding chi is therefore to appreciate that the world consists of very much more than just the physical things we can see. Physicality is just the tip of the iceberg. Beyond this there are worlds upon worlds of more rarefied and non-dimensional realities, that are just as tangible as the physical realms if you are able to discern them. They can’t be felt with our ordinary physical senses but it is possible to develop other organs of perception in our subtle bodies. Over a period of time, the level of functionality that can be built up is quite extraordinary.

Imagine, for example, that you lived in a culture where for some reason it was taboo to use your arms. As you grew up, they just withered and hung uselessly from your shoulders.

Then supposing one day you meet someone who says, “Hey, do you know you can use those?”

“For what?” you ask, incredulously.

“For so many things!”

And then the person teaches you how to begin to move your arms. It would be nothing more than a few jerky spasms at first but gradually, if you worked at it, you’d build muscle and be able to move your fingers, turn your wrist, bend your elbow, move your arm, and pick up weights. One miraculous day you’d be able to use your previously pathetic appendages to drink a cup of tea! And that’s just the beginning. You could go on to learn how to write, create handicrafts, paint masterpieces… the list is endless.

Human possibilities

There are parts of human subtle body structures that have fallen into just such disuse in modern times, to the extent that most people don’t even know they exist, never mind how to use them. The focus these days is on breaking the latest speed record, accomplishing physical feats that will go in the Guinness Book of Records, and anything that will push the physical body to new limits.

But this all amounts to very little when compared to the vast unexplored worlds of human consciousness and subtle bodies of energy. It was this quest that led me many years ago to the discovery of chi, and it was working with chi that led me to the discovery of the principles of space clearing, feng shui, and an in-depth exploration of high spiritual realms.

In my book, Creating Sacred Space with Feng Shui, I describe how it is possible to go around the inside perimeter of a home, sensing the energies and reading the entire history of what has happened in a space. Every event leaves an imprint in the walls that can be read through the hands just as clearly as reading a book with your eyes. And – as with the analogy of the arms – this is just the beginning. There’s a vast kaleidoscope of possibilities that opens up once a person starts to develop their etheric awareness.

Awareness of chi

Anyone can develop the ability to sense energies if they’re prepared to work at it. The problem is that western civilization is characterized by etheric numbness. Many people don’t even know what their etheric feels like.

Here’s something you can do next time you visit the ocean: Observe what part of you likes to be there. The sound of the waves breaking on the shore is good to listen to, yes, but there’s something more. The ocean is wonderful to look at, yes, but there’s more. The part of you that really resonates with the ocean is not the physical you at all. It’s your etheric, which is made of chi and resonates with chi.

The etheric is a subtle body of energy that permeates the physical structures of all humans, animals and plants. It’s what makes things grow and gives vitality. It’s life force energy. Young children, of course, have oodles of energy and are primarily based in their etheric. No wonder they love to visit the sea!

Here’s something else you can try: When you have a massage, don’t just lie there passively as the practitioner moves energies around your body. Actively realign your energies from the inside as the therapist works on you from the outside. With a capable practitioner who has etheric awareness, superb results can be obtained by this method of teamwork.

As your etheric awareness increases, by the way, you’ll become more selective about who you allow to work on your body in this way. A massage therapist who has not developed etheric awareness will not know how to cleanse their own energies after working on clients and will pass toxins from one person they work on to another.

Feng shui and chi

Feng Shui mastery begins by cultivating awareness of chi in the environment, which must begin with cultivating etheric awareness and awakening in yourself. To learn feng shui intellectually without being able to feel the energies on which it is based can only give you second-hand knowledge, which won’t take you very far at all. So here are some things you can check to see how etherically based you are…

Do you wear shoes or slippers at home, or walk barefoot? Do you wear lots of jewellery or very little? Is your home cluttered or clutter-free? Do you enjoy being in Nature? Do you sleep with the windows closed at night, or do you always open a window to allow chi to circulate in the space? Do you eat junk food or mostly fresh, healthy food?

The frequently barefooted, lesser-jewelled, clutter-free, Nature-loving person with a well-ventilated bedroom and healthy diet is far more in tune with their etheric than the opposite case. If you are able to feel your etheric, living this way feels natural and right.

I’m sure that the great Feng Shui masters of old had profound levels of etheric mastery, and it was upon this that their expertise rested. To awaken your etheric is no easy task these days but it can be done and is very worthwhile.

Copyright © Karen Kingston 2009, updated 2017

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The delights and idiocies of open-plan design

In tropical regions, where people spend most of their time outside, small windows are the norm in traditional homes. Less light equals less heat, and having a cool, dark bedroom is infinitely preferable to one that is hot and light. As one Balinese person I know put it, with typical earthy logic, you don’t need to see anything when you’re asleep.

In colder climates of the world, small windows have long been popular for the opposite reason – not to keep heat out, but to keep it in.

Then along came the miracle of heating and cooling systems, and a flotilla of eager architects who set about exploring the new possibilities this opened up. Air-conditioning and central heating meant windows could be made larger and internal walls could be removed to allow more circulation of light. The era of open-plan living had arrived.

The pros and cons of open-plan design

The immediate advantages, when you walk in to a well-designed open-plan home, are obvious. The living space is wonderfully lighter, brighter, and feels more spacious. Your etheric naturally expands, creating a feeling of freedom from constraints.

It seems very appealing, until you try to live in a home like this, and realize how important walls and doors can be. Noise is one of the biggest problems, echoing up and down staircases and along the corridors. If you live alone, that’s fine, but if you share the space with others, there’s often nowhere you can go to get some peace and quiet.

One multi-million-dollar home I once visited had a massive open-plan living area, dominated by an enormous TV screen that all the children stayed glued to, with the volume on high. The parents saw this as a clever babysitting ploy without realizing they had actually given up control of the space to their kids. A flick of the remote determined the noise that permeated every room of the home. Not surprisingly, the children became unruly and prone to frequent tantrums. The open-plan design meant that they ruled the roost, not the parents, and they took full advantage of this.

I’ve found noise pollution to be a factor in nearly all the open-plan homes I’ve ever seen, and this is greatly exacerbated if the floors are tiled or made of wood rather than carpeted, and if the windows have blinds rather than curtains.

Another issue is how little storage space there usually is. The absence of internal walls means there’s nowhere to put up cabinets to store the things you need in daily life. The space either becomes cluttered, or stuff has to be stashed in other parts of the home, far from where it’s needed.

Cooking smells can be a problem too, permeating a much larger area than the kitchen and lingering longer. Soft furnishings, such as sofas, readily absorb and hold odours, and cannot easily be cleaned. They are not designed to be placed in kitchen environments.

Then there’s the inefficiency and expense of heating or cooling such a large space. Perhaps you only want to use your lounge, but you have to moderate the temperature of your kitchen and dining area too, because they are all one.

Open-plan living can also make it very difficult to create a heart to your home, especially if your kitchen-dining-living area feels like a through-corridor to other parts of the property. People and energies have no place where they can comfortably gather.

How the design of your home can affect you

‘We shape our buildings and afterwards our buildings shape us,’ said Winston Churchill, in his famous speech where he advocated retaining the rectangular shape of the House of Commons Chamber instead of rebuilding it in a semi-circular or horseshoe shape, as some had proposed. He felt very strongly that the existing shape best served the purposes of England’s two-party democracy, and persuaded his fellow parliamentarians to agree. That design remains to this day.

The layout of modern homes has changed considerably, however, and open-plan living is one of the most prevalent of all. As the trend for this continues to spread around the world, its influence on the quality of modern life has been significant.

What architects have not taken into account is that the natural state of the human is involution (turning inwards), which is the pathway to accessing inner silence, vast states of consciousness, and a more purposeful life. But twenty-first century living is increasingly exvoluted (turned outwards), and because of this, more and more spiritually disconnected and lacking meaning.

Open-plan living is designed to be more sociable but can also have the effect of causing the occupants of a home to be perpetually exvoluted. The lack of quiet, privacy and boundaries can take a serious toll and needs to be counterbalanced by having other areas of the home where these essential aspects can be enjoyed.

Why broken plan is the new open plan

Countless studies have concluded that open-plan offices result in higher stress levels, impaired productivity and poorer relations between workers, and now studies of open-plan home design are revealing similar concerns.

In the UK, some architects are now helping clients to change from open plan to what is being called “broken plan”. This usually doesn’t go as far as constructing floor-to-ceiling internal walls but does the next best thing by creating half walls, folding partitions, or false walls using cleverly positioned items of furniture. Remedies can also include putting doors on entrances to corridors to reduce noise flow, adding soft furnishings and rugs to absorb sound, and attaching acoustic-absorbent panels to the walls or ceiling. As a last resort, some have turned to building an office shed or summer-house in the garden as a way to get some personal space, and sales of these structures are currently soaring.

Sillier and sillier

It would be remiss of me to end this article without at least mentioning the hopefully short-lived new trend for open-plan bedrooms with no dividing wall or door between the sleeping space and bathroom. In some cases, the bathtub is right next to the bed, the toilet is in plain view, and there is a walk-in wardrobe without a door, causing clothes to become damp with bathroom moisture.

I remember being excited the first time Richard and I stayed in a hotel that had a splendid copper bathtub in the bedroom. But the novelty soon wore off when we discovered how the humidity lingered in the air for hours, how the wet carpet around the tub had a terrible dead dog smell, and how the toilet being so near to the bed felt unhealthy, unsanitary, and plain wrong. Open-plan of any kind creates challenges, but this is taking it a step too far.

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Sniff before you buy

Modern furniture

I once stayed in an English hotel with my husband, Richard. We went to bed feeling fine and woke up feeling terrible.

At first we thought we’d both come down with flu. We had dry throats, stuffed up noses, stinging eyes, difficulty waking up, and generally flu-like symptoms. We’ve both experienced similar feelings before when sleeping in hotel rooms with air conditioning, whether it’s turned on or not. The chemicals remain in the air for many days after air conditioning has been operated. But in this room there was no air conditioning and there never had been.

Modern furniture outgassing

We were puzzled for a while until we took a good look around us in the clear light of day and realised the room was full of brand new fibreboard furniture. All the cabinets, an enormous headboard, and the bedside tables were all made of the same trendy-looking material, which usually outgasses for many years after manufacture. Even though we had slept with the window open, there was not enough air circulation to prevent us from breathing in a toxic cocktail of chemicals all night long.

A lot of modern furniture is made from fibreboard — also known as particle board, MDF (medium-density fibreboard), or hardboard. It is made from wood chips or sawmill shavings and is held together by a formaldehyde-based adhesive, notably urea-formaldehyde (UF) or phenol-formaldehyde (PF), which you may recognise as that “new furniture” smell. PF outgases less than UF, but is more expensive so is usually not the first choice of manufacturers. Wall panels made of plywood (thin sheets of wood) are also glued together using this type of adhesive.

Outgassing (also known as offgassing) is the slow release of the gas that is trapped, frozen, absorbed or adsorbed in a material. Formaldehyde’s health effects include eye, nose, and throat irritation, which can be accompanied by coughing or breathing problems. Prolonged or high exposure can lead to asthma, severe headaches, nausea, vomiting, nose-bleeds, skin rashes and other allergic reactions. According to the US Environmental Protection Agency, ‘there is evidence that some people can develop a sensitivity to formaldehyde. It has also been shown to cause cancer in animals and may cause cancer in humans.’ The way to test for formaldehyde allergy is with a patch test. It’s also possible to test concentrations in buildings using a monitor.

Experts vary on how long it actually takes modern furniture to outgas, with estimates ranging from a few months to a few years. The Healthy House Institute says it can take 6-10 years. The length of time is also influenced by the type of glue used, the age of the wood, the amount of ventilation, and the temperature and humidity of the room (it takes longer in cold climates).

But however long it takes, whenever we are house hunting, we don’t even bother viewing places that have just been renovated or redecorated unless the owner specifically stated that non-toxic building materials and paints have been used, which is very rare. And when booking to stay in a hotel, we do our best to avoid the ones that proclaim themselves as “newly refurbished”.

After checking with the management, we discovered that this particular hotel room had been completely refitted just a few months earlier. If we’d known that, we wouldn’t have booked to stay there.

So what can you do about outgassing in your home?

Well, the first thing you can do is to make a point of checking the formaldehyde content of any new furniture before you buy it. Some types have far less than others, such as those labelled U.L.E.F (ultra-low-emitting formaldehyde) or better still, N.A.F (no added formaldehyde). Or buy solid wooden furniture made from real trees from a renewable source, which will not outgas at all.

Another option is to buy second-hand furniture that someone else has already nursed through the outgassing stage. Sometimes you can get lucky and find beautiful stuff, which you can then space clear to remove the previous owners’ frequencies.

If you’ve already bought furniture that is outgassing, then you could seal the fibreboard with a paint, varnish, or polyurethane-like material (one that doesn’t contain formaldehyde, obviously), and make sure you cover not just the flat surfaces but all the ends too. The main problem with this is that many of these sealants contain other toxic volatile organic compounds (VOCs) that you would not want in your home. However they tend to outgas for a much shorter time so would be the lesser of two evils. I’ve never tried this remedy myself, but if you already have furniture that is causing you health problems, it could be a more affordable solution than replacing it.

Something else you can do is to make sure your home is well ventilated. You can also reduce other sources of formaldehyde emissions by not using carpet glue, paints, curtains or bedding materials that contain it. When you start to look into it, it’s in so many things. Even ironing boards are usually impregnated with formaldehyde, causing you to breathe warm toxic vapours as you iron.

It’s is also found in many cosmetics and beauty products, such as nail polishes, nail hardeners, shampoos, make-up, soaps, bubble-baths, deodorants, lotions and, of course, hair products. Hair straighteners have some of the highest concentrations of formaldehyde of all. You may also want to check the content of your household tissues. If you get a sore nose after using them, they probably contain added formaldehyde to make them more absorbent.

In B.C. Wolverton’s book, How to Grow Fresh Air, he lists various plants that can be used to reduce formaldehyde levels, and there is convincing evidence that they can when used in sealed chambers. In the real world, however, you would need so many plants to achieve this that it would almost certainly be impractical, although a company based in the US has now been licensed by B.C. Wolverton to create a fan-powered air purification system that allows one plant to do the work of 100 plants. Until this becomes widely available, as hopefully it will, the best remedy by far is to avoid formaldehyde outgassing in the first place.

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